I’m going to allow you in on only a little that is secret and females think of sex differently.
The 2 individuals in a married relationship are coming in to the wedding sleep with various means of approaching intimacy that is physical. The visual, the feeling, the foreplay, the “feeling sexy”, the sexual interest, the stimulation as we learn about our spouse and learn what they like and don’t like, and what we like and don’t like– it’s all a balancing act.
I am aware some times that We don’t feel sexy and therefore means often that intercourse could be the very last thing on my head. However it doesn’t need to be in this manner. It doesn’t need to be me personally vs. him.